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Legal Problems as Opportunities for Transformation

For most of us, feelings of “happiness” or “well-being” are to some extent a function of  life situations more or less conforming to preconceived notions of how life “should” be.  Such notions often include ways in which people behave towards us, together with thought-driven notions of how we need to be perceived in the minds of significant others and society at large.

Certain situations become “legal problems” when they violate these preconceived notions and internalized expectations as to how events should or should not unfold.  When these expectations are violated, most of us feel threatened and manifest some need for acknowledgment and validation that the action or inaction that has caused us harm was “wrong” by general societal standards.

There is a basic notion of “justice” that if certain societal notions of justice are violated, then the offender should compensate the “victim” to make that person whole.  But this overriding goal of restitution often becomes subordinate to vindication of the threat to one’s “happiness” brought on by these unexpected events or outcomes.

In this way, legal problems present us with valuable opportunities to more directly confront, and ultimately come to understand, our underlying expectations of how life should unfold.  Once these preconceived notions are more clearly identified, they can – perhaps for the first time – become appreciated more for what they are, i.e., mere thoughts.  These thoughts can then be differentiated form a felt connection to present-moment reality, thus providing a heightened sense of freedom from learned conditioning and habitual reactions.  In this way, legal problems may often serve as prime opportunities for personal transformation.

To learn more about holistic law practice, please contact Holistic Lawyer Michael Lubofsky, either by visiting, or by calling (415) 508-6263.